Welcome to the boards, you'll find a lot of good here. I don't have any great advice to give at the moment....but I do wonder about your money situation. Why doesn't your H have direct access to both of your money. One thing I did learn in MC is not matter who brings in the money it belongs to you both. Having to ask for money was something that was demasculating fo my H and I didnt realize it (he worked but he paid rent and would sometimes need extra money around that time of the month to do other things). I immediately had my direct deposit changed over to a joint account and stopped saying "my money" and began to say "our money"...."my, mine" seems like a small thing but it definitely aids in being a relationship killer.
So I was curious if there was a serious specific reason he doesn't have direct access to household funds and is instead given the money to pay bills and personal needs? If not then it can be a quick and simple 180 to fix that one issue.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
