It's only fear that makes you run

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WR,
I would wait until the 13th as planned. I would just inquire as to the status of the papers and leave it at that. I wouldn't even have your lawyer contact his.

You know exactly where your papers are and when you submitted them. You are in the clear. Notice how he's not jumping through hoops to pay you the back support or reimburse you for the check he got my mistake? Then listen to me, take a page out of his textbook just this once and don't jump through hoops for him to shut him up. The best way to deal w/him is to let him stew in his own juices in his own pot. You don't need to be in there w/him.

I know you are tired of him throwing you under the bus, but this is the MO. They do everything in their power to wear us down so that we will be more than happy to get rid of them. Don't take his bait.

Your son is old enough to either walk away or hang up when his father starts whining about you and the divorce proceedings and money. He should just tell his father that this is between you and him and not involve him. Technically, your h is using your son to get at you and he's doing a bang up job. I'm sorry, but it's got to stop and the best way to do that is to step back and allow the system to do it's work.

I know you are upset and believe me, this is what he wanted right here w/the holidays around the corner. Want to take a bet that he wanted to ruin your holiday spirit of the weekend? He was most like p@ssed that you were playing music and loudly and your son was putting up lights on the house. Poor little boy...no one will help him decorate his sand box.

Again, please don't react in a knee jerk way because this is what he wants and expects from you. The 13th is only a couple of weeks away.

Turn your music on and relax a bit this evening. Don't allow him to take your power away and above all else, don't allow him to bring you down. There is only room in that pot for one person and that is your h.