I was appalled that he wanted to continue talking to me in that way even after I told him how it made me feel He said it was just his regular voice. I told him if he were to hear his tone he would understand. He said that is how he gets his point across. I was so frustrated!!! Even after I told him it bothered me he insisted that it was ok for him to talk that way.
Next time I am just going to try to postpone/stop the argument in it's tracks when that happens. Unfortunately that is something else I need to work on really bad.. stopping an argument without sounding rude. I need to practice saying, "I think we should continue our talk at a later time..."
Problem is, he has closed himself on the past so I don't really want to limit what he has to say... Perhaps I can tell him, "I really want to hear what you have to say to me, it is very important to me. I would really like to continue our discussion when we are both calmer."
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
