It's almost Valentine's Day and our 11th anniversary. 13 years together, 11 years legal and 5+ without sex. My H has already started the fight. Not cooking and telling me when I responsed in anger that now I know how he felt more than 5 years ago when he was still working to come home to no dinner. We have no money to travel and 2 timeshares that are ruining our budget. H is letting bills stack-up but not telling me he is not paying them because I should be checking for myself. H will not tell what he wants because if I had been paying attention I would have known that his casually mentioning they want him to think about retiring it was important. Soooooo, I have gotten out a large dry marker board and everyday I write down 11 reasons to celebrate my anniversary so I don't forget it is my choice to be happy. I brought a 2 pound bag of shell on frozen shrimp to peel and eat on V-Day. I may go back and get another bag and have shrimp scampi on pasta. What I really want is a good long f---!

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