RosaLinda: I did what you did and changed my H's name to "H-is this text necessary?" and IT WORKED! Lol. What a great way to see that reminder every time he texts me and to think, "do I really need to answer this....is my text to him really necessary? ______________________________________________________________________ UPDATE
Saw my counselor for the first time! Yay! Will update in another post about that.....lots of good stuff.
Friday night the kids and I went out of town to a freezing cold play off game. It was fun, though.
Saturday, my boys had haircuts that I was supposed to get them to while H did some other errands out of town.
H was acting "weird"...more like his old self. He texted to make sure I was up and getting the kids ready....then, he texted to see how the weather was, etc. He kept texting me random stuff from work.
He asked if I was ignoring him b/c I wasn't answering back every time. He ended up ditching his errands and meeting me at the hair salon to "hang out" and so he could "take us all out to eat".
The lady who cuts the boys' and H's hair has been a family friend for 14+ years...and her husband cheated on her a couple of years ago (she is still with him...trying to make things work). She is also my running/walking buddy...so she knows about the problems in my M.
Anyway, she and H somehow started talking about our marital stuff while I was out of the room when Thanksgiving plans came up...and when I walked back in, they kept talking. She meant well, was trying to convince H that divorce isn't the answer...that is isn't worth it. She was talking about affairs from the betrayed person's perspective, etc. H was actually being pretty open and listening and talking to her and me about stuff. At one point, she asked him if he still loved me and he said, "you really don't want to know the answer to that."
I was wondering why he was being so talkative about it (REALLY out of character) and I was wondering how to end the convo because I was afraid H would get upset and take it out on me later. Plus, the whole thing was just weird.
Anyway, he did end up feeling kinda pressured at the end of the conversation...and got mad at me about a comment I made. So, he decided that he didn't want go eat. Then, in typical MLCer fashion, he changed his mind and did want to go eat.
We went and ate....spent day together with kids. H was VERY talkative and laughing and joking. Even the kids noticed that he was in a really good mood. After we got home, we were napping and he gathered me up in a hug and said, "I do love you, baby." HUH?
I kept telling myself, “do NOT get excited about this….NO expectations!” Ugh, I am SO confused. He tells our friend that he isn't in love with me anymore...but goes home and tells me he is.
Sunday, we had a nice lunch made with his holiday turkey from work…the kids set the table all fancy…H really enjoyed the whole thing….kept telling the kids how awesome it all was.
He and I flirted and joked…everything was going well.
Then, without warning, he started getting ready to leave to go watch football at “Julio’s” (his friend). I got upset because he’d led me to believe that he was staying home all day. I knew I was not DBing very well…so as he left, I tried to just be nice.
He texted me “Goodnight” late last night…and checked on me this morning.
