I want him to abandon his resentment towards me and realize that I am human and I effed up. He seeks revenge and retaliation for the things I do. And he never shares with me when is unhappy so he does it passively aggressively by retaliating. At times it almost feels like a contest and not a marriage. well YOU did this so I'M going to do this!

I've been in a victim mentality for 6 years now because I felt like I was the one who started this whole mess. Poor me I f^cked up. Now I realize he would have done this whether I was in his life or not. So I get completely confused when he is SO HURT that he would not share this with me, yet go out behind my back and lie and cheat, and sleep with other people. You will still see peeps of the victim in me as that is a cycle I am trying to break. I think this part of it is the last thread hanging on because I feel his resentment of me.

That hurt, yet thanks for asking that deep question.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.