I for one refuse to totally detach. The day I have to do that to survive I'm done with this M. Like you, my spouse and I still live together. Interact everyday. Run the house and care for the pets. I care for her and am not afraid to show it. If she doesn't like it she knows where the door is, I'm not stopping her.
Detach enough to enjoy your life Rosa, as long as you can do that you are NOT a DB failure.
Bust On! (or tell him to move to Russia already. Your choice!)
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
