To give a gift of love on Valentines or to forget it and pretends its just another day?? That is the Question.. What if anything are any of you planning?? Any suggestions.. I did flowers and little something from the heart last year when all this was going on.. I even got a gift back. This year I dont know what to do.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Valentine's Day can be a GREAT time to practice with the "gift of real giving". Nothing wrong with flowers, however, there are some ways to go a step or two beyond this, without being expensive, either!
What are some of your partner's special interests, and passions? Things that they really like, that might be known only to you? Simple things that could touch their hearts?
My wife really loves Audrey Hepburn. Knowing this, I've been able to get her things like special address labels, pin-on buttons, a book or two about her.
Other hits have been anything to do with Rocky Horror Picture Show, and Dark Shadows tapes and trading cards.
Special "pampering" throughout the day, instead of just "one big thing" helps the effect, too! How does your partner like to be pampered?
Silly little things, yes, but they've really had a great impact! The more personal, the more it falls along the line of being a "gift of real giving", the better!!
JJ
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I just bought ex-b a book I know he'll love - I'll give that to him and a not-too-romantic type card. Maybe a large bar of his favorite chocolate too.
I think the most important thing is to get something your W will love, period. She may not be wanting stuff like flowers now, but something for her well-being (like a spa gift certificate) or a book you know she'll enjoy...something that doesn't expect anything on your part, and nothing that puts pressure on her.
Intresting question - I also do not know what to do - Since C has gone out of her way to let me know that she can not say ILY and does not feel she can commit to "US". Just wants to go one day at a time. That attitude has litterly killed any feelings I had for V-Day.
Even though she did call the other night and say ILY and knows that she has a problem saying it and said she is working on it, to me it is "too little - too late" to get me back in the mood to enjoy V-Day.
Also, last year C completly ruined V-Day by waiting til we got to the Restaurant to start harping on the fact that we needed to work on our R. So I still have bad feelings about V-day from that too.
I do not have a problem with being w/ C on V-Day but I do not want to go out and "Celebrate" it. So I will follow this thread for any suggestions too.
I am thinking about roses and some perfume that she wants and maybe a cd that she has wanted for a while now..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
If you were totally back with your wife, the flower/perfume route would be great. I don't know if she'd like that or if it would scare her off (and it might).
Given her actions lately. Id say not doing anything, would be a bad move on my part. No love card or anything like that, Just flowers and a little something meaningful.. By not doing anything I am saying I dont care about you.. At least that is how I read my Wife and her actions.
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
It's almost Valentine's Day and our 11th anniversary. 13 years together, 11 years legal and 5+ without sex. My H has already started the fight. Not cooking and telling me when I responsed in anger that now I know how he felt more than 5 years ago when he was still working to come home to no dinner. We have no money to travel and 2 timeshares that are ruining our budget. H is letting bills stack-up but not telling me he is not paying them because I should be checking for myself. H will not tell what he wants because if I had been paying attention I would have known that his casually mentioning they want him to think about retiring it was important. Soooooo, I have gotten out a large dry marker board and everyday I write down 11 reasons to celebrate my anniversary so I don't forget it is my choice to be happy. I brought a 2 pound bag of shell on frozen shrimp to peel and eat on V-Day. I may go back and get another bag and have shrimp scampi on pasta. What I really want is a good long f---!
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Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
THAT I've still been getting. Not that I'd mind it that day either, but I'd like to hear that I'm loved. Oh, well - maybe next year! With ex-b or with someone else...
What I really want is a good long f---! 