Can you please give me an example of a "truth dart?"
My definition of a truth dart is a one way reality comment regarding the relationship. It's a few words that are tossed in a conversation when things are going well, that basically hint as to how you feel, or where you are regarding the relationship. I say one way because you really are not looking for a response, because a response could easily lead to a drawn out relationship talk which likely would not be helpful.
Timing is everything! Reality darts (my preferred term) are never injected when things are tense. Toss your darts and move on. Give them time to have affect.
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Yes. Timing is crucial. H and I have had a fairly good relationship and I have just started dropping them now.
A few of my favourites?
"When D leaves for college, this house is going to be too big for just me." -that one had him saying we'd hire yard help and a cleaner....
" As a person in my profession, I could work anywhere."
