I did not have any expectations of an apology or anything for this first conversation, but neither did I expect to hear in technicolour how little he thought of me when he was happy with GF. I have never been in therapy, but does he talk to his therapist about this? What would she say? Or is he lying to her, too?
I dunno. What would he say to you that you two have in common? OW for starters. And if, in his own f'd up way he is trying to put all of it on the table, that would be one part of it. It would be like looking at an ice-cube and not knowing it's really part of the iceburg for you though.
I agree - you are nobody's consolation prize. Not in the least. But you will likely hear from him for a while. They have unfinished business of some sort in many cases. Seems it's up to you to make him go away for good. That won't happen until you are ready to make it happen. I totally get that you miss what you had. It makes it harder to let it go, but it works out better when you do.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
