Kp, willbewell and pud, thanks for your thoughts. The struggles and challenges are so eearily similar with so many of us. I read on someone else's thread that if one was simply an observer - it would be fascinating to watch. Although I suppose the more we detach , the more we can observe.

Not comfortable with the niceness - I didn't realise how distrusting I had become of him until he started being nice.

The mood swings freak me out too. Like tonight he is planing to go out and he is almost 'giddy' ... He is making the arrangements in front of me and it seems quite innocent...it just unnerves me. It would be normal under 'normal' circumstances ...however nothing about this is normal!

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home