Gabbysmom, ok maybe its not anger that you harbor. Maybe that's just how you are
Back to the exposure. I would also like to add that most of the counselors who advocate exposure only recommend that you tell ONE person. That person should be someone that your wayward looks up to.
So in a sense if this is what you all are referring to as exposure, then maybe i agree more. But the nucleur type where you go around telling literally everyone is probably not a good idea.
Anyone else agree? To those who exposed, did you tell one person or many? How did it work out?
Since you asked . . .
First of all, when I read about exposure, I read a LOT of different ways of doing it. It's not true that "most" recommend exposing only to ONE person, nor do most recommend 360-degree shout-it-from-FB-and-the-rooftops. MOST authors and therapists that I read that recommended it said you should do it to a CLOSE circle of family, key influencer friends, and the other spouse (who has a right to know).
In my own case, it worked and we're happily reconciled today 6 years later. But if I had it to do over again, I would have exposed to a somewhat smaller circle of people (specifically, I would have kept my own parents and siblings and a few not-that-close friends out of it).
That said, it's certainly not DB or MWD's teaching.
