It was ruined anyway because we had gotten paint on it. I had been meaning to get ride of it for a while. I did it while the kids were napping. At least I got some anger out.
3! I think this was more funny than creepy, lol, but I can see how it would make a person feel good!
I think your H is more the creep, and I'm sorry you found out who OW is...and what a creep she is for openly flirting. Yuck, I hate this stuff. I despise, yet feel sorry for, the women who have such low self-esteem they have to pick a married man. So completely sad for them. But hey, karma is a be-yotch, it will come back to them eventually.
Hang in there 3.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Hi Pud. Thanks for checking in on me. I have known who the OW is since the beginning. This was just the first time that I heard about her flirting with him in public (in front of my best friend). My BF said that my H did not respond and ignored OW's advances, but if she was comfortable doing it in public I can only imagine what goes on behind closed doors
I hate this stuff too. The OW is a total mess. She is also married with children. Her H is in federal prison. She is an alcoholic. She has no money, a million creditors after her. My H likes that she is carefree and the life of the party. However, my H's head would explode if I acted like she did - openly flirting with other men. Such a double standard. Oever the past two year, my self esteem definitely took a hit considering that my H would prefer to be with her than with me. Boo
However, I have come to learn that my H's opinion of me and OW is not accurate. I would never want to swap places with OW. While I hate this process, I have come SOOOO far. If you remove the S and the A, I am a much happier person. I appreciate my life and the things in it. I am proud of the person that I am. Yes, I was not the perfect wife. But know I realize the things that I need to work on for myself. It will be H's loss if he does not come back.
H continues to push the boundaries. He calls to discuss the kids but then brings up other stuff. Today, after talking about the kids, e asked a question about a bag I own and if I could send links to bags I like to buy for two people who work for him. I did not respond because one of the kids started crying and I had to get off the phone. Do I just ignore him ans what until he brings it up again or do I email him and say that i can't do it? I always did this kind of stuff in our M. Bit he does not want that. Plus all I can think about is that he will buy OW (since he also works with her). It is hard enforcing boundaries while trying to remain a friendly neighbor and not seeem mean or spiteful. Advice??
3boyzmom your situation is so like mines in every way except that OW husband is not in prison and I don't know if OW has creditors going after her but I do know that she is an alcoholic she drinks every night and she is always depressed cause her soon to be Ex H had moved on with a 20 year old person. But yet she is with my H and she complains to him every night about your soon to be ex. I find that very interesting. I guess that is what they both want in their lives.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
I just did The same thing I hunged up my boys and my christmas stocking up this year and I did not hang H Christmas stocking up at all. And I finally took down the pictures of H around the house. Except for one that has the three generations of the boys and their dad and grandfather ( their grandfather had passed away two years ago) I just didn't have the heart to take that one down.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
My H generally reaches out to his friends at Thanksgiving and sends notes thanking them for being a part of his life, etc.
I just received the following email from my H:
W,
I wanted to write and say Thank You for doing an amazing job raising our boys. I know our lives are in a tailspin right now because of me and I know that I have hurt you deeply, but in the spirit of Thanksgiving I wanted to say Thank You for all that you do. If our boys were old enough and understood, they would say a big thank you to you, too…
Honestly, this is the man that I have known for 15 years. The man that cares deeply about his friends and family. The complete opposite of the man that I have know for the past two years. I miss this man terribly. I need to take a bit to figure out how to respond.
wow 3, what a moment of clarity for him! That is a very nice letter from him. If it were me, I'm not sure I would say much, but that's just me. I would just say 'thank you'. You probably want to say something more, and you should if it feels right to you.
I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving, make it about the boys. The true joy in your life.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Awww happy birthday to the little one! Or dude as my son would say, lol. I still haven't forgotten my son as a little boy and he is 16 now Lovely times.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
Happy Thanksgiving!! I am very thankful to have found this support group. I know that the holidays are stressful for all of us, so I hope we are all able to make the best of it and truly enjoy and celebrate the positives in our lives.
Lovely times.