Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[Pudmuddle]

I can remember when I first started this (this time) my H was always thinking that I was 'out to get him' by doing something devious. I remember having to repeat and repeat 'I am not here to hurt you, I am not here to hurt you'. Their minds are so irrational that they think because they are doing awful hurtful things that we are going to go all crazy on their a's. So it really is all part of the script. Try not to let it get to you and remember he is not in his right mind right now.

I know it is extremely hard, tiger, but try to look at him as a roommate right now, that can actually be a saving grace for you. There is no logic that we can put into place for this. I have seen my H in such a fog, and seen how completely forgetful he is about simple everyday things, that I can see how he is really struggling. They appear happy but it is only a facade for them dealing with all the anger and issues they have inside. Remember it is just for now, until things move along, but this may take quite awhile. Get a patience rubber bracelet too. You can only take care of yourself and your son right now, because he has no wits about him.

Today will be a good day for you! You can do this, one minute, hour, day at a time, take it slow.

How is your finger doing?