Thanks all for your time to check in, giving me things to think of and your kindnesses.
Gabbysmom- Thanks for your words, it does come across like I'm blaming me. I actually wonder about the dynamic, what makes him say those things? Those are very much pre BD, where we both say things just to argue. Of course, he was already in his MLC funk and depression for awhile at that point. I just wonder and won't change what I discuss at all lmao!!
Busting- What the heck? I have no answers lol.
BD- ya, he is really sixteen some days, why would you say something like that? I got the context a little more over the weekend, but still doesn't excuse the text... In terms of validating him, at last I recognized it lol! Still have work to do...always...sigh. A couple of conversations came up this weekend, where I realize he is still far away from being able to discuss anything related to how we were in the past. I opened the door a couple of times, but it got shut pretty quickly with a 'can't change the past'. I said "yes, but you can learn from it.
Funny how he starts rewriting stuff already. He had some opinions on friends of ours who are separating, and I reminded him that when we split, he also felt the same about me and that by his own admission he didn't get happy when he left. (because I was not the root cause of all his evil).
I had also mentioned, in the context of something else, when he wanted to give his relationship a shot with MG at the end of JUne and said I basically had to get out of his life. He said "No that it was much earlier, like May, she had already broken up with me..." I know for a fact it was end of June,and he has rewritten that part in his head already lol! (never mind anything that would have happened pre BD).
Bestie- I just have to shake my head, seriously. I got no excuses, no nothing.
