W took a trip to college to see D19, she's been feeling a bit down. I had to run over to W's to pick up my dogs (D17 picked them up and took them with her to W's yesterday). One was in W's room and OK, I snooped a little and looked at the books on her nightstand. One was "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage". That was a real "WTH?" moment to be sure, LOL! Anyway, I called W when she was on her way back and asked her how D19 was doing and thanked her for going and told her I'm sure it really meant a lot to D19. She joked that D19 looked happier to see her dog (which she had taken along)! She thinks D19 is homesick. I tried calling D19 but she didn't answer, so I texted her and let her know I've got her favorite shows recorded and that I'd take her to Hunger Games when she comes in for Thanksgiving. I'm taking all the kids to Houston to see my mom, sister and brother and they love going, so I think that'll help D19 a lot
Originally Posted By: FlyOnTheWall
Any further news on the petition? Hows the kids holding up?
No news at all, the last time I asked W said she needed to change a few things and give it back to the lawyer but that's been 3 or 4 weeks ago and no news since. Kids are fine, I think if and when the D goes through it's going to upset them but for now they're OK.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
You stories of life, and how you are dealing with them are pretty inspiring. I still see so many similarities in our sitch's. I think a big portion of us here, have a lot of similarities. Seeing how you handle them, gives me hope that I will make it to the point where you are today. I'm getting there slowly. I just want to say thanks! You're doing great!
Thank you, I appreciate it I agree, there are a lot of similarities in ours and other sitches. I think that's why coming here is so therapeutic, it helps to know we're not the only one going through this!
Originally Posted By: littleGTO
Long time since I've been here...out trying to live my new life and slowly survive divorce. Having two conflicting things happen at the same time is really a ride!!
Did you get D'd? I'm really surprised, it seemed like your H was slowly coming around! I'm sure you're doing great, you've shown tremendous growth and strength in your thread!
Originally Posted By: S4tk
In the interest of facing reality, I seem to see this same thing in W sometimes. It's so strange that it happens at this time in life.
Is your W going through menopause too? It seems like the medical field acknowledges menopause and the changes that can come from it, but makes it seem like a normal progression for women to abandon their spouses and even children as some kind of "growth" process. Of course not all women do, some are affected more by it than others. Personally I think that if a woman who has been happily married and a content mother for decades suddenly shuns all that she previously held dear, then the medical profession should treat it more as a mental health problem than a "natural progression".
