J, one of the hallmarks of this type of journey is depression. I would hazard a guess that your W is showing some signs of depression. "Always" "Forever" statements, possibly sleeping at odd times (gone for two hours; it's possible that's what she did), the erratic behaviors, etc. I'm not trying to take the focus off of you, but I am pointing out that her road is not an easy one either. Through your changes, you have changed the dynamic (for the better I believe.) She has to adjust as well.
You can't help her with her choices - you can only make yours. And you are and seem to be doing well with them. You are making changes for you and those will stick. She has to make her own.
Be there for the kids. You can tell they need you now more than ever. They are very good at intuiting what's going on and at working on ways to get their needs met in their way. They need their dad to show them how to deal with what comes their way. How to grow. How to be a family.
Keep up the good work on YOU and it'll fall all fall into place as it needs to.
Peace,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
