Ok tthat sounded snippy but I should take it as a learning moment. There was probably a better way to present it rather than "you could. .." he views that as me giving permission. I could have said it a different way such as "that bed has a more comfortable cushion if you feel like switching. " IDK if that is any better.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15