The Big Hill

[Pudmuddle]

I wonder why it is so hard for him to admit when I have hurt him or have been insensitive to him at the TIME that I hurt him? The reason I ask is because this seem to be a pattern with him. Say for example, something happens where I have hurt him, rejected him or let him down, at the time that we talk about it, he will accept my apology and then say we are ok. Then YEARS down the road I find out that it was never ok with him and he has never forgotten this one thing. So he uses that to act out in some way against me.

I can remember one anniversary where we were traveling and I had forgotten to get him an anniversary card and he said at the time that he was ok with that because we were traveling and busy. Then I find out 2 years later that it really bugged him. Seriously...YEARS later? Why on earth would he not tell me sooner that if really hurt his feelings. He has done this with other things. Is it part of the way a man learns to stuff their feelings down and pretend everything is alright? Confusing.