Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

Yes, STFU. Why is it so hard? I need to get myself one of those plastic bracelets that says STFU, maybe a stretchy one that can snap me like a rubber band when I pull on it. :P

I think based on my rating system a 6 is not really that tremendous, especially knowing my H. His ratings systems seem to be rather skewed anyways when it comes to people. Either he thinks you are wonderful and worthwhile or you are a waste of oxygen and time.

And I think based on his other comments he and I had been at 10 plenty of times in life but he let his assumptions about how we would HAVE to get married keep him from going there. How sad is that. I am pretty sure I have mentioned several times that I didn't expect a big to-do. Just a ring and a justice of the peace and some nice pictures to remember the day would have been enough for me. Maybe splurging on a nice new outfit would have been a nice bonus, but I am totally not the type of person who is excited at the prospect of buying an overpriced dress I should only wear once. :P

He also said he has just never really cared that much about marriage as a "thing"... and this is something we have in common. His mom sort of made marriage look like a hobby for bored people with young children to support. I have 2 uncles who have each been married 4 times and have multiple children with these women. When I got pregnant these were the first people in line to badger US about getting married. Needless to say, that advice coming from them made us both VERY apprehensive.

For me marriage was never because I needed the reassurance of the commitment (I trusted him SO much, I never in a million years could imagine him WANTING to find someone else, let alone doing it), it was more for reasons like sharing insurance coverage (we worked that out without M) and getting Social Security Benefits if one of us died, and for the sake of our child socially. But we have been calling each other husband/wife for at least 8 years without it being the real deal. :P