Just had the strangest telephone conversation with my H. Well not strange, but it goes back to when he wasn't living at home. I have plans for tonight with a gf and H kept insisting I was meeting bf which I do not have. I said I'm going with gf. H said why aren't you going with bf? He then asked me why I didn't have a bf!? Arghhh!
H said he ran into a guy he hasn't seen since before this happened today. Said to the guy "I haven't seen you in awhile and then mentioned that he had moved out for awhile!" Friend said "yeah I heard" "brother (who is a good friend of this guy) told me that. And also said that brother didn't really say anything else after that. I said to H see my family keeps things to themselves. H said yeah right.
It really upset me to hear that this is what he told this guy. That H had moved out for awhile!! Yeah...with another woman...boy this brings back pain for some reason.
H then said he couldn't watch S tomorrow morning while I worked. H said "he needed some time to himself" that he's been home every night with our S! Yeah after he's had a few at least two nights. I said well so have I, H said "that's your job" this ticked me off too! He's an A** all around today. Then he said he was watching son and wanted to know what time I was coming in to work. I said early, like around 8. He said "that's early?" I'm not even going to finish this. He was calling from his cell phone, also, but told me he was at home.
Wanted to know if I was going out after the hockey game tonight and I said probably not. H wanted to know why not? I said I hadn't planned on it. H then said he was going out after I got home from hockey game.
Find Snodderly's thread on reconnecting. Then develop even more patience then what you already have. Give him time, you will get what you are looking for in the right time. He is still working through things.
I do have that info and have read it. I guess in the back of my mind the threat of OW is still there if there hadn't been an OW, some days it might be a little easier shall I say or maybe less "anxious," would be the word, when he was in his "mood."
When I got home from the hockey game, H wouldn't even talk to me. He basically stayed upstairs until I got home as S sleeps up there. H got up started going down the stairs, I said "good night" not a word.
I thought okay, I'll make a little visit to him. Went down to his room, opened the door and was going to lay on the bed. I said "are you sleeping?" H responded with a very firm "yes I am" I said are you sure? H said "yes I am again. Which was fine, I just wanted to at least try, maybe last night wasn't the night to do this.
So I went to bed, prayed and reflected a little bit and fell asleep.
H was in the same kind of mood this morning. He thinks he has the flu as he was up most of the night. He was very nice when he was telling me this.
So I was sitting on the couch with S and H said "I thought you were going into work early! The day's half over! It was 8:30 am people! Okay so I am at work now for a few hours. I was home with S half the week and I do have things to do here, whether H likes to think so or not.
H just doesn't think what I do is important, that I actually even DO anything at work. Every job has it's busy periods and it slow periods. He just doesn't want to know or think that what I do is important and that I am a very important part of my office team.
I really don't care what he thinks, I know that I am a hard worker and a good worker!! I've been promoted three times in the last ten years and working for the institution that I work for..this is amazing. I'm not trying to convince anyone here either, but my H just doesn't care or want to see this.
Wish I had a magic wand for all of us to make things better. Right now I'm certainly not the one to give you advice. All I can give you is hugs and wishes for a good outcome. My sitch has gone from bad to worse as posted on my thread
Hopefully Laurie will be over to visit you soon with the right words of encouragement. I'm thinking of you and am praying for you (and me, too). I think I'll be lighting a few candles at church tomorrow.
Take care and God bless,
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
I find that it's funny that when I need to vent, like over the weekends, hardly anyone is here just like this weekend.
WOW, Cathy, I just got a phone call from my good next door neighbor. Another neighbor from across the street called her to let me know my outside lights weren't on. (We keep them on all night.) This neighbor and me and my H haven't talked in 2-3 yrs (isn't that a shame in itself?) I think that was very thoughtful of her and I will let her know that.
Isn't this a sad thing to say but I'm glad that I'm getting on this train out of Limboland. The next country probably isn't any better - but once you make the first move I think the others may get easier.
And "I'M THINKIN ONLY GOOD THOUGHTS"
GO US!!!
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
which I do not have. I said I'm going with gf. H said why aren't you going with bf? He then asked me why I didn't have a bf!? Arghhh! 
