Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

[S4tk]

For the most part things have been peaceful these last few days. Today after D5 and I returned from church, I fed the kids lunch and put S1 down for a nap. Then I went down to watch the Bears.

W whispered from upstairs 15 minutes later and said she was going out. I didn't hear her well, and I said, "Did you say you're going out?" She said yes, and I told her to have fun.

I could tell something was amiss with our interaction, so I went upstairs to feel things out. I said, "What happened just now?" She said, "You made a face when I said I was going out, before you told me to have fun." I said, "I wasn't aware if I did that, but I'm sorry."

She then said, "Why are you sorry?" I said, "I'm sorry for how our interaction made you feel." She said, "It's not how I feel, it's about what you did."

Then I got discouraged and decided to go back downstairs rather than continue the conversation.

I really don't think I made a face of any sort. I felt pretty detached and didn't care if she went out one way or another. But this afternoon while she has been gone, thinking about this exchange has made me mad. I am growing tired of being the perceived "bad guy" in the M, and being blamed even for non-existent things.

Do you think she felt guilty going out and needed to create drama?

Do I need to sweep this under the rug as a good DBer?