Wow, I didn't realise how long ago I wrote this. An update: found out last week that the W is in a relationship with this OW, she confirmed it to her Mum. I don't know which other family members are aware or not, no one talks to me.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.