The danger is that sometimes when women communicate this, they do it in a way that makes us feel defensive.
I really liked your post, but I just want to pick up on this.
I accept that the way that women communicate can cause you to feel defensive, but that is your response. The woman didn't make you respond in this way.
Women need to take responsibility for how they express things, but can you see that there is a subtle shift of blame here, probably unintentional?
I can see how it might have come across that way. It wasn't intended as blame, just something I have acknowledged about myself and need to watch out for. I see male friends and colleagues who tend to respond the same way. Part of the cycle we need to break out of.
I have heard many women comment on a man's "tone of voice" (mine included). Generally speaking, we do not intend this subtlety and are not aware of how our tone of voice is perceived. My comment about responding defensively to statements made by women was along the same lines.
