Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

So how do you feel today? What are you going to do going forward? Take the focus of Beardometer and Twinkle Twat and do things for YOU tiger. You really need this right now. Giving him the focus gives him a sort of power over you and I can tell you are much stronger than that. You took some of it back by expressing your deep feelings but don't let it consume you.

You are a very strong person, I know you can do this.

Thanks Pud. I can't take credit for Twinkle Twat, I am pretty sure I read it in someone else's really old thread. For whatever reason it was in my head. His OW seems so obvious in her need to attention, so it seemed apt. "Look at me! Look at me! I have an edgy hairstyle! I dyed my hair!" I got tattoos! I wear crazy clothes! Look at me so I know I matter and am alive!" Her twat probably IS lined with seasonal decorations and lights.

Oh one more nugget I thought was kind of funny. I asked in OW gave him the cologne he has been wearing. He says he bought it for himself (weird, out of character, but I guess he is self conscious about his odors)... OW got him a massage at a spa for his birthday. OMG. I immediately knew how uncomfortable he would be with that. I asked if he enjoyed it. All he says is, "The minute I walked into there I wanted to leave." Oh that brings me so much joy. I wonder if he actually told her or if he just smiled and pretended it was right up his alley. I kind of think OW probably got them both massages for his birthday, so it was more about her and what she wanted and was a total miss for him.

I give good massages, my H knows I would never waste money on sending him into a public place to get one where they make you get half naked and wear throw away flipflops. Man, I can't believe she still gets a 6 or a 7.