Bea, Rip's been stuck for a very long time and it appears that the death of his wife has helped to pry him loose off that Easter Egg and to start hatching a new chapter of his life. There is no guarantee that he'll finally face his demons, but at least he's trying to find a home where it all began. I have found it to be a huge positive that he's been reaching out to people he grew up with and cousins he's really not had much to do w/his entire life. But, at least he'll be "home" and that's what is important. He has a lot of relatives and former friends in that area and I do think he needs their love and support now more than ever. If he opens his heart, mind and soul, he will find the answers there.
I'm staying positive and praying that he'll finally find some peace and happiness and realize that he really did have a far better life than his mother or father did and whatever happened during his early years was not his fault. He truly needs to learn to love himself and realize that happiness does come from within and that nothing or anyone can do that for him.
Life is good and I couldn't ask for anything more.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm glad that life is going so well for you, and I hope with you that Rip heals, find peace and contentment. Your knee must have made a fantastic recovery to allow you to dance.
Thank you for your example. You demonstrate so concretely what forgiveness looks like, and the happiness that comes from it.
MissAngnes, I have been extremely pleased w/my knee recovery. I'm only sorry that I didn't do it sooner. The scar is fading and I go back in January for the 1 year check up. What helps in the success of such a surgery is a good surgeon, following your surgeon's orders and doing the PT. The PT was murder, but if you can get through the first six weeks, it becomes easier with time and you have to have a whole lot of patience! LOL! It's definitely a marathon, not a sprint.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Bea, Amen on that! It is hard road to travel to get to where life is good once again, however it is worth the many twists and turns, pot holes, etc. but when you get there...boy you can finally say hallelujah!
I'm a firm believer that if each and every poster does the hard work that their journey requires, they are going to be survivors and success stories in their on right. The grunt work does pay off.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
And reality. Once we LBSs can come through our own fog, how could we believe that things would work out for the MLCer, especially the longer time goes on?
The fools.
Enjoy your bubbly, put on the music nice and loud and save me a dance!!
Job, I have followed along with you for some time and respect many of your insights but I am disappointed in your tone here. After so many years, why care so much?
I guess I would say that at this point, what happens to X really doesn't concern me, whether it involves OW or not. That is my attempt to release.
The thing is, his reality will be his reality, and you can call Karma and say life is teaching a lesson or whatever, but really, in his mind it's still going to be that he did the right things.
To me, feeling gleeful about an X's misfortune so many years later will bring only negative karma onto you.
After this many years, whatever.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
I get what your saying and it's great you feel as you do.
Some of us, especially those still in the thick it, need some reassurance that Karma exists. It's so hard to imagine someone hurting us so deeply and, then, just skipping away.
I know all the "stuff" how the WAS is in pain and I believe it. But, dammit, in human and sometimes I need reassurance that the bad guy gets his in the end. That's what Job did for me. This thread show that you can't make a string of really bad decisions and step all over other people's hearts without some backlash.
I don't care if it's a crisis or abduction by aliens, watching my 11-yr-old daughter cry over her dad's absence is all I need to feel some satisfaction from "what goes around comes around."
It may not be politically correct, but it's how I feel.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
