Since my last post back in August, I've been busy, busy, busy! I really took everyone's advice to heart and I've spent these months working on myself and, in turn, it has improved my relationship.
I made my effort with my friends here, made more effort to connect with my friends back home (regular skype dates, texting, etc.), I made time to write, read, play music, build up my professional portfolio, and best of all--I traveled (with and without theEx).
Even though I was quiet on the boards, I made sure to keep a journal of my progress and setbacks. It forced me to be accountable for my actions. There was a section in DB about measuring progress in small, concrete ways and so I made myself a little journal template to follow where I'd write out my progress in a way that was easy to measure (that was a BIG help for me personally). If something wasn't going well, I'd readjust my behavior/thinking, and try again next week. I continued with weekly therapy sessions.
I listened when my Ex told me about the kind of partner she wanted me to be. I made sure to give her love in her LL. I made sure to never neglect my own needs.
Things overall have been moving in a positive direction for the last couple of months, but then last week we had a talk about our relationship status and made it official--so we're back together again. It doesn't feel much different than not being together (but in a good place), but it does feel good to see her less commitment phobic than how she's been in the last year.
This, however, doesn't mean I'll stop working on myself or the relationship. This is no time for me to be lazy or become complacent! I'm going to keep working on me, working on us.
Just wanted to check in and let everyone know things made a turn for the better.
