Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

[hotwheelsaust]

Thanks BF for that view of the relationship. But there are some differences to what you went through. The amount of texting, phone calls and meet ups prior to BD. The flowers at valentines day. The OW coming down to the city for each school holiday. And the big one, the W trying to get her to transfer back to the city next year. Generally the W has demonstrated all the signs of an affair. Don't forget even the wedding ring was taken off at BD. I was reading a book on women's infidelity yesterday, and it was saying that in an affair women preen themselves up more, mostly it was about shaving legs etc more often, and that is why they tend to start wanting more privacy in the bathroom. I thought wow because as soon as BD was delivered the bathroom was always locked and I was never shown or saw the wife unless she was fully dressed.
In saying that, it won't hurt to put what you said in the old memory bank.
You are right about my move. It will make life so much more interesting and fun.


Today is my 24th wedding anniversary. The first time I have never done anything for it. Even last year after BD, I had a card ready to give (still have it) and a table booked for dinner. She said it would have been uncomfortable, so spent the day with the OW and came home around dinner time and did schoolwork. This year I haven't even bought a card, no text, no email, no present, no dinner booked and no phone calls.