This is all a part of the withdrawal and believe it or not the fits that the throw help to clear their heads so that they can think. Just continue with what you are doing.
Being firm with your stand and not letting him run all over you, but be loving, compassionate and patient. Reread the withdrawal stage. If you remember, HB mentioned that there were going to be times that you were going to have to set boundaries or do things to pull them through this stage.
So you are actually doing fine and you will reap the benefits for your obedience to the Lord. Just keep going through the valley because you will come out of this. It just takes time for right now. He is not angry at you and that is what you are realizing. You have not detached too far. You have detached far enough that you do not get dragged into his drama.
You have to remember that he is going through alot right now and you are noticing it more and more. He is also noticing you still there and showing him love when you shouldn't be after all that he has done to you. You are also being tested by him because he wants to be sure that these changes are real.
Stand firm and don't stop what you are doing. You are making great progress and you are helping your husband more then you will ever know.
