Portia, Many MLCers sense when we are pulling away and getting on w/our lives. Like the toddler learning to walk, when mommy or daddy are not in view, they panic and begin to cry. Your man is sensing that you are pulling away more and more each day and he needs to know that you are right where he left you.
As for the ow, it doesn't matter whether things have settled down or not into a routine, the MLCer still wants/needs to know in some way that you are still out there waiting for them, to be their last string to the apron that is unraveling at the hem.
You'll know when you are ready to have a chat w/him, but don't allow him to push you into doing so until you are ready. You ultimately are the only one that can make the decision as to where you want to go w/your life and if he wants to return to the relationship, again, you are the one that has the final say in whether or not it's a go.
On another subject...how is your father doing? Are you doing okay? How is the kitty?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
