bustingout, I am on the same page w/Cadet. Unless you absolutely want to start over in a new place, I would remain put for the time being. You have a job that you like, your children are established there w/the schools and you have friends there.
I have to say this just to give you some food for thought...you don't know what will happen if you move to a new area. For one thing, jobs may be difficult to find and there is no guarantee that your h will be any more ready to do the hard work of reconciling. I've seen many LBS pick up and move to a new place because their MLCing spouse wants a change or has opted to take a job in another place. Once there, the LBS and family are stuck living in a place where they don't have a support system and pretty much left on their own. The MLCer then finds another excuse not to fully engage and work on a reconciliation.
Please sit quietly and the answers will come. This is a major decision and one that is going to require a lot of thought.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
