They're both very juvenile (arrested development?) and my kids are living with them.
I saw my son today at his lacrosse game, spoke to him after the game. It was very cold for a game in shorts (43). He's basically shut down emotionally.
Or just a symptom of their self centeredness. I mean really, if either of them were behaving as real parents they would want to insulate the kids from the problems. Instead they had to 'prove' to the kids that you were the evil one and 'mom' is simply a victim.
As far as your son being 'shut down emotionally' I beg to differ. I believe that he is choosing not to engage you because he is stuck between his loyalty to his mom who with the help of OMH took the opportunity to twist the situation to favor them.
the main ones that I think you should be focusing on is "Don't take things personally" and "Don't make assumptions"
You don't know where he's at emotionally and you're taking it personally. Purge those feelings and simply realize that this is his journey and your role is to be present and not discuss this event unless he wants to.
