In general most MLCers are running headlong - often in circles, but there we are.
The hardest lesson we have to learn in this is to accept life as it is, and that it is not currently how we want it to be. That is firm ground from which we can build our future lives. Do what you have to now to get to a place where you want to be. As Job says, please take your focus on your husband and understand that right or wrong, like it or not, he is going to do this stuff. That is the sad reality, and you are free to get on with your life, and this is actually a great blessing, although form my own experience, it takes a very long time to fully appreciate what a great gift it is.
We LBS need to take responsibility for our own stuff, and allow the MLCer to do the same. That is proving to be a great lesson for me
