Hey Rosa, when you go for that "something new" make sure it's something that'll help you. 'Cause there's a good chance it may not make any immediate difference to H. It will be socked away in his mind though, and may eventually help him when he is ready.

I like the fun idea's above. Maybe do something like that if it will raise your spirits, and make standing easier for you. Maybe you could have UR make up some Russian clothes for his skype computer! You can get away with a lot more than most... we both know your H is not going anywhere any time soon, if ever. Have fun with this knowledge. You do have power and say in your M.

You could even inject a few reality darts while you're at it. Subtly drop hints that you don't intend to stand in this loveless M forever. That is the reality, right?

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl