KAW,

H isn't feeling well these days which is why he isn't taking his lunch, as I asked him this morning. I think the resentment is more that I ASSume he's in a hurry to call OW, thus the reason he leaves so early in the morning and FORGOT to take the lunch or take the garbage out.
That by not taking his lunch I'm ASSuming he's giving up on trying, ASSuming he's pulling away again, ASSUming he's not coming home, but going to OW's after work. It's me ASSuming the worst.

H brought dinner home last night. Which is a first for my H. He was so proud of himself and it was very good. Lasagne he bought at a deli. I also know he found this deli because of OW..or am ASSuming they purchased dinners from that same deli.

So am assuming and focusing on OW instead of where I should be focussing!

I do enjoy making H's lunch, making dinner for him, it all has a whole new meaning to me..acts of service for my H for no other reason than to show I care about his needs. I didn't make them at all before the bomb and this was a complaint with H. That I never made lunches for him, now it's not a problem at all.

Cathy