I won't give up II

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Thanks for the thoughts BF and Portia,

Last night was quite strange to me. I felt almost as if he was here testing the waters. He started by asking me if he could put his truck in the garage now that there was an empty spot. Weird request but I told him that it was fine. We did what we use to do on a Friday night if we didn't go out. Had dinner, watched a movie and just hung out. I had a glass of wine with dinner as did he but then he kept on drinking until the bottle was empty. He drank too much or so he said and ended up spending the night in the guest room. Odd night but no r talk just a pleasant evening talking about kids and what was going with his work. He invited me out to breakfast but I declined so we had coffee here. As he was leaving he said, "last night was fun" and asked me if I had a good time. (Guess life is all about having a good time for mlcers. lol) So he hugged and kissed me and off he went.

Things I observed:

He was comfortable and very relaxed (even before the wine).

He was polite and gracious, talkative.

No cell phone calls or texts.

This morning he took a shower in the guest bathroom but came down to use the Master Bath for everything else.

When he caught me coming out of the shower he didn't turn and run in fact he made a suggestive comment and actually touched me as he walked by.

When I asked him if he slept well and he said on and off. He looked very tired.

I noticed after he left that the clothes arrived in were in my laundry hamper!!! WTF??? He must have forgotten that he doesn't live here anymore or is he marking his territory? LOL

Speaking of not remembering..he became extremely frustrated with himself when he couldn't find something that he had just put in his pocket an hour before and asked me if I thought he was losing his mind. (Nope, wasn't going there. Just sympathized.)
He eventually found it. It had migrated out of his pocket and up under his sweater while he was on the floor playing with the cat.

Backing up to a week ago when he stopped by to pick up a few things. He made a beeline for the spot that we keep all of the old pictures. He dug through and found slides from when he was growing up as well as the pictures that he took while in the military. He couldn't find the slide viewer and was in a panic. I took a quick look around and couldn't find it either. He sat down and started looking through them showing them to me and telling me who, what and where for each one. He ran into a few when the kids were young. That started him down memory lane. He asked if he could take them.

Yes Bea and Job, I know I'll never see them again but other than the ones of the kids, I really don't need them. If they help him come out of the tunnel then I'd gladly give me every last picture that he needs.

Over the past few weeks he's also taken a few things of personal nature that belong to him anyway. He always thanks me for letting him take whatever it is and assures me that "they aren't going away forever". Subtle changes here and there that seem promising. At least for now.

He doesn't make comments about the ow as often as before. One comment that he did make made me smile (inwardly of course) was that "she should STFU and listen instead of talking all the time". If they are having issues, he isn't talking about it to me anymore. Maybe he's figuring this out on his own now. Keeping my fingers crossed.

He mentioned again that he would be gone for Thanksgiving and that it was probably for the best. Didn't ask what he meant. He asked what I was doing and I told him. Told him that his parents sent a card inviting us to their home for the day after Thanksgiving (as they have done for the past several years). He said that he wouldn't be back until Saturday. I asked him if he would call them and let them know but he never answered. Guess he's not ready to deal with his parent and his childhood issues quite yet.

I'm all over the place here, rambling on and on. I'll go get some much needed rest now.

Thanks for all of your replies and posts.