Sm34 thank you for your kind words I really needed them just now. H and I just had another scene. I am so bad at DB.

I found out from my son that while I was at work today they went to Mc Donald and he met Dad's friend ( AKA the OW). I lost it and told him to not drag S into what ever he is doing. Hr said I was crazy and on and on and then he mentioned the D word. Do I did every possible anti DB thing I could do. Cry, plead, ask him why he said a month ago he wanted to work on things but never followed through. ..ughhh. So now I am basically just waiting for him to decide when he wants to leave.

My s has pretty severe anxiety issues. Shuffling back and forth will be traumatic. I suggested H move into basement and we work out some arrangements with s but he gets to stay at one house. I have no idea what is going to happen.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15