Can I do this alone?

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Mid life crisis is usually triggered by a tradgic or life altering event. The lost election could be the trigger.

In any case, lets not worry too much about his issues that are driving this behavior and lets just focus on what you can do about it.

What behaviors can YOU start to change that will change the dynamic?

I sense a lot of negativity and hopeleness in your tone. Is that how you act when he is around?

You need to work on being positive because it will show on you. People like to be around positive people.