Hi Cathy,
I know how you feel on the resentment stuff! I would get the same way. Then one day, I broke it down, that I was getting resentful because I expected to get a certain reaction from spouse while doing these things and there lied my disappointment. I noticed I started keeping a scorecard mentality for what I was doing. Then I looked at what I was doing and how it made me feel inside for doing these things. If I felt good doing it, then I continued despite CAW's lack of interest.

So if making your H's lunch is something that makes feel good as a person doing a good deed for another. Keep doing it and recognize it as such and give yourself a pat on the back. Took out the trash ... focus on giving yourself kudos in your efforts in making the place a better home for your family. Hope you get the idea ...

Focus on lifting yourself up for doing these things versus letting resentment set in.

'til later,
KAW