Busting, this is big decision to move to another country. Make sure you take some time to really think about it. Who knows what will be better for your kids, to have their Dad living in another country and only visiting them, or to be uprooted and moved to an unfamiliar place. Plus, if the move will not guaranty that H will be in your kids’ lives more and it will still be the same, then what would be the benefit.
I’m kind of curious what his actually motivations for your move. If I understood it correctly, he was not involved with the kids that much. Well, maybe recently he started showing more interest. Also, his comments about the possible rumors make me wonder. I’m pretty sure that the you will get the answers to all these, just don’t rush with a decision.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state