Hey J, some good advice there. Just wanted to tell you a little bit about depression as I suffered from it.
First of all, it is at the root of a MLC, in my opinion. She is struggling to get through each day. It takes enormous energy. More than she has to give right now. It is as if she is swimming through mud.
She is attached to her phone because that gives her a reprieve from having to deal with her crisis. She doesnt have to think if she can concentrate on that.
I know it is hard for you to grasp that this is who she is right now. But the sooner you do, the better off you will be. Accept what is, with the knowledge that it wont always be that way.
When you do that, you let go and detach. Thats where you need to get to.
You have been giving a wonderful gift here. You get to show your children how to navigate through life's tough stuff with dignity and courage and compassion. Show them well.
They are always watching and they feed off of your actions and words.
Be very careful not to let them feel how disappointed you are in her. She is their mom.
Lovingly let her go. Do not allow her words or actions affect yours. Each day you be the man you want to be regardless of who she is at the moment.
