Be very careful with 'doing everything' around the house. It can be perceived as weakness and being willing to do whatever it takes to win her over. Not attractive.
I'm a fan of continuing the old roles and chores. If she did the dishes before, let her do them now. If you took out the trash and did the yard, keep doing them. Not a fan of the lbs taking over and completely enabling them to he lazy and have no purpose. I don't believe you are doing her any favors when you do that because having no purpose helps depression stay right where it is.
Even though we may feel like we would do anything for our running wife, you cannot and should not let her feel that! Its counteintuitive but so is everything happening in your life.
Stepping up and doing everything would be for BEFORE the bomb. For a man trying to make sure his unfulfilled wife doesn't go outside the marriage. After this has already happened, it is time for being loving but also firm and showing self respect.
She has most likely lost some respect for you as head of household, and jumping through hoops for her will make it worse.
Just my opinion.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
