Good response about the funeral. I think that it is important that you are letting your husband know that you are going to be there for him because you want to be and not because you have to be. That is very important to him whether he tells you that or not.
Sounds like he wants you to go and be with him as well. Especially since he is willing to find the babysitter. That also means a great deal to him whether he tells you at this time or not. Keep doing the things that you are doing because you are making positive steps.
They need to know that they are appreciated and needed and that is what you are showing him. You are showing him this without mothering him or pursuing him which is very good. Keep up the great job.
Stay on your journey with the Lord because he has many things that he wants to teach you and show you. You are open and that is why things are happening the way that they are happening. I understand what you mean about the presences when you pray because it happens with me too. Things are different then what they were before because I am now different and so are you.
Your situation helped you to open up to the Lord because you had no other place to go and see how great he is. All he wants any of us to do is open up and he will help in every way that he can because he is our Father and what Father doesn't want to bless their children!