Yes this is true. But exposure doesn't leave much room for remorse because the shaming will bring anger.

Remorse happens after the person has time to think about what hapoened.

But yes, the cheater is not a victim. And the shame is due to the act. But again, do you want to be right, or do you want to hopefully be married again someday?

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017