W was Ms. Uber Mom. Then a few months before BD, she started distancing, then after BD, way gone, compared to before.
Less than a year, she started slowly reconnecting with our sons, especially the younger 2, the oldest was on his journey to be a man, so less so with him.
It has been growing, and now is pretty close to "normal", with the caveat that she realizes that they aren't little anymore, and NOW seems okay with it...accepting of it.
It is ONE aspect of her mlc, and she is working her sexy little butt off on figuring it out, getting to where she needs to be.
Most likely, your W's interactions, etc with the kids will return. I think it's pretty damn tough to completely severe the Mom and kids tie. Just be patient, make up for it with them best you can, but DO NOT hinder, interfere, push, expect or anything...let her figure it out. Most likely, she will.
Oh, when she figures out what she did, and such, regarding the kids, and the moments/time lost...umm..look out. She will be one depressed and possibly angry person.
That's why you need to be sure to not interfere, push, etc in any way...just support.
Most likely it'll all be okay in that area, be patient, trust in God and the process.
Well, that's my experience from my sitch...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
