I blew it. I walked outside and H was sitting in van watching something on his phone and crying. He turned it so I could see and we watched a video about a baby in the Nicu. He was bawling and I assumed he was thinking about the many months our son spent in Nicu. Without thinking I reached out to comfort him and he pulled away and then used the opportunity to berate me again about how much I changed after S was born and I made S my whole life and didn't give a **** about H. I told him I realize now that I did change and I was sorry I made him feel like I didn't care about him. (I don't know if that is validating or even if I should have been validating)
Now he is just angry and bitter again.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
