Oh and also by caring less, it will be obvious to her. Then what happens is she begins to lose control of the situation and control is very important to a WAS.

Your relationship will go through a correction phase where she begins to see that you are putting youself first and begins to respect you more for it. It levelizes and equalizes the balance of power in the relationship and its destiny. You now have just as much if not more control over whether the marriage ends at this point, than she does (right now she has final say and full control)...

With equal power and equal control, the relationship becomes more normal, more of a relationship between two equals intead of how it is right now with her trying to decide the future of your marriage and you waiting and holding your breath and putting her on a pedestal.

You have heard of the WAS only having second thoughs when the LBS moves on right? Same concept. Its what happens naturally as your level of caring lowers to the sam level as hers.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017