Originally Posted By: labug
Now back to the Planet Show!

Gosh. Thanks. smile
My life is no bed of roses right now.
It's hard to accept things the way they are now. It's surprisingly fast the way things move. In just 2.5 months after the court hearing, I find OM staying over on weekends and it's been going on for probably 2-3 weeks before i realized it.
Do you just fall in love with someone after falling out of love with another? Is this just a rebound?
In the weeks before BD, XW did want to make things work.
I had a revelation days ago. I can understand now my unhappiness in the M and it's got nothing to do with XW. It's just unfortunate we did not communicate effectively with each other.
I shutdown when she reached out. She shuts down when I reach out. It was unhealthy.


Originally Posted By: labug
Planet, it's all yours now. Sorry for the extreme highjack but maybe the discussion was helpful to you.

Not at all.
Yes. It was helpful in a way.
None of us advocate spanking. Some us accept some form of it.


Originally Posted By: JonF
You need to focus on the kids, and forget XW. When my XW1 started piddling with OM, and he moved in, I decided to ignore them, and I took the kids camping, roller skating, ice skating, etc. You make life a blast for the Ds, and they'll gravitate to you.

Do you mean completely slamming the door shut?
There is no way she's coming back if she's in another R. It's not an affair anymore. It's a new relationship.
I'm not seriously effected by their actions. I'm surprised that I feel this way.
The problem is that I still love her.


M35 XW34
D5 D4
M 6years T 10years
Bomb 5/2013
Joint Petition signed 6/2013
Moved out end of 8/2013
Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013
D finalized in 3 months - no news yet