Don't know what to think

[T-boned]

OMG - I totally didn't see all these great responses by Tiger, T2d and AJ over the past few days. I missed seeing I had another page, all the time thinking no one had responded. Some day I'll get this posting and checking for posts thing all figured out-just bear with me. Had kind of an up and down day but just got back from a run on the beach where the day is what I call a 'Chamber of Commerce' day - spectacular! So tonight finding all this great stuff makes me sooooo happy!!!

Tiger: I so love your humor (duct tape and sedatives)! And am impressed that it is coming from someone who is relatively new at this and is involved in an incredible sh-tstorm. Geez, girl, you are amazing. Thanks for making me laugh and smile - and no, I don't see you calling me 'dear' as pursuing, although when you think it or say it, it's almost a knee-jerk reaction in any situation!!! ((())) to you.

T2d:

Something my IC said to me about W...that she pushed me away, hard, because she knew I cared for her deeply, and she didn't want to drag me down into her crap as much as possible, because she knew I would go there with her trying to help.

So, in an odd way, it was an act of love.

She had to go places I couldn't follow, would be too hurtful to follow, and she cared about me enough to push me away and tell me to go home.

Ever see those movies where the kid has to tell the loyal dog to go home, to NOT follow? Hard for both parties, but confusing as hell for the dog...

Wow! I love this! What insight! I could totally buy into this knowing my H the way I do. This feels so right-on. And I do feel so much like the loyal dog . . (Hey, where's your IC - I think I need an appointment :))

AJ:

You have been given some good advice and some perspective gems. Please take care of yourself and look to the bright-side each morning. Life is good even when times are tougher than the others.

Yes, thanks to you I have been given some real gems and I hope to be able to reciprocate once I get the rusty lock open on my treasure chest! Most of my gems will have been forged through the advice I've received from the people on this site, but I know I have a few originals in there somewhere to throw out.

Update; called H to see if we could get together and talk about what we are both expecting out of this divorce in relation to our house (he knows I want to stay here), other property, pensions, etc... I told him we both don't know what the other one wants so we should start addressing some of this. If anything, agree on a list of topics? He said it was a good idea but wouldn't be around until the weekend after Thanksgiving. Leaves today to go up to be with his family. So we'll see how it goes when he gets back. In the mean time, I am going to get some things done I've had on my list - I'm taking the whole week off next week until the following Tues. so I have lots of 'free' time. Got some friends to visit and hikes to go on.

So right now I feel somewhat okay with this sitch simply because at least it is movement in some direction, even if it's not the direction I want to go. But it beats the limbo I've been in the last 7 months. And then to see the responses from you guys just made it all even better! Love you all !!!!