I'm sorry if I didn't make myself clear enough. I was in no form suggesting that you initiate any legal process or say you are going to follow through with a FINAL ultimatum and if you re-read my post I would hope that you would see that now.

All I suggested was obtaining a lawyer's business card and placing it where H would see it. The goal being to make him notice and respect your boundaries ... thru the power of suggestion that the card would create ... nothing more was intended.

... but when you state boundaries you set yourself up in running some risk. Either the risk him making a choice of action that is in opposition of the reason for you setting the boundary or that he becomes indiffrent to them because there really will be no consequence to him.

There have been a few times in the last year where I forced myself to hold back from setting such boundries because I felt there was a damn good chance she would use them as an out, so I do understand what a hard position you are in right now, but in no way was I inferring that actually follow thru with the atty.

'til later,
KAW